01 October, 2005

Hello Lonely.

I was at the vet last night with my friend Mink and Kelso (poor baby had an upset stomach..yes I know..I'm gonna be one of those Moms), when a Chinese lady about 30 years of age, stepped in with her little pomeranian.
She stood there staring at us for a good 10 minutes.

I gave her a smile and she immediately walked over and sat next to me.

So we exchanged the usual pleasanteries - What's your dog's name? Is she fixed? No? Oh mine is. Can she shake hands? Is she noisy? bahblahblah.
Then things suddenly took off on a tangent-

Her- You know, hor.. when I was attached ah.. my boyfriend and I had a dog, we went out for so many years you know! But when we broke up ah, no choice..I had to leave the dog there.
Me - (A bit surprised that a complete stranger was telling me something so..private) Oh dear...I'm so sorry to hear that..you must miss the dog a lot..
Her - Of course la.. but what to do? I told my father- I live with my parents now - I told my father ah that I dun wan anymore boyfriends la..enough is enough..
Me - Why not??
Her - Men are no good la..they will always cheat you one ahh.
Me - (Gulp.) R-r-really?
Her - Ya lor. Cannot trust them one ah. That's why I love dogs so much! They're very..(says something in Chinese and struggles to explain the English equivalent)
Me - .....loyal?
Her - Aaaaah correc'! They are very loving la, very loyal la(voice drops to a whisper) not like men. Correc' or not?
Me - Uh....(nods uncertainly)
Her - Aiyoh.. sorry sorry hor.. I think you and friend want to talk right, sorry I disturbed you!
Me - Oh no no..you can stay!

After that, we went back to talking about the dogs, but I was a bit unnerved after that. There was look of immense sadness in her eyes, even when she laughed.


I've always been a little paranoid about getting into relationships with men (mostly, I try not to.) And to confound things, a complete strangers pours her heart out to me about this.
Honestly, as I talked to her, the one thought that kept running through my mind was "Oh God.. I don't want to be her, 10 years and 5 broken hearts down the road."



I left the vet thinking " Ohhh this is so not good for my issues."

32 Comments:

Blogger Mint Chutney did the happy dance and finally said..

It's usually the crazy cat ladies who start conversations like that. You know the type..they have 3 cats and their clothes are always covered in cat hair.

1:57 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

mint- thats what i suspected..she was a little OCD about her dogs cleanliness...but she really unnerved me man simply coz she was giving off vibes of immense sadness..i hope i end up loving more than a dog, when im older.

2:57 PM  
Blogger Casablanca did the happy dance and finally said..

"Its better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"
Although its sound too philosophical and a load of BS, I truly believe in it.

2:58 PM  
Blogger Medha.. did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahi- Oh babe! C'mon, you won't end up like her. =)

I know there are men who cheat and stuff. But trust me,I have not met a single man like that. At least not yet.Call it my luck or whatever. *touchwood* But there are soooo many men out there who are quite the loyal types! Now if things don't work out between the two, then its another story.I'm saying from my experiences.So just like i keep telling my other friends, trusting 'em is all you have to do and all you can do. =D

3:37 PM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahiiiiiiii..... COME ON!!! Whats wrong with you???

Of course, you wont be like her.
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Even the dog wont be loyal to you!!!

3:42 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

casablanca - youre right...of course..some experience (good or bad) is always better than no experience!

medha - i know babes =) i keep telling myself..u just have to take a blind leap of faith. if you fall, you fall. just get up and move on! *touches wood too*

apoo - :P i hate you.

4:40 PM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahi - Dont wory my dear, if u ever take a blind leap of faith, I wil never let u fall, i'l be right down there waiting to catch u! ;)

After I catch u, thn we can recover in hospital togather! ;p

Bt seriously, there are guys who are jerks, while there are others who are actualy pretty good guys...by judgin all guys as jerks is unfair on the good ones and saying all guys are saints is a cardinal sin!...so my advice(for wat its worth) trust ur heart... :)

9:08 PM  
Blogger IdeaSmith did the happy dance and finally said..

Seems to me like she misses her dog more than her boyfriend....smart woman that, take a leaf out of her book. Kidding apart, I don't think you can learn from anyone else's "mistakes"...you have to make your own and discover what life means to you.

10:41 PM  
Blogger Medha.. did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahi- There you go! Rajesh is there to catch you. Apart from the "recovering in the hospital" part! (Rajesh, you bad bad boy..shame on u!):P:P

11:15 PM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Rajesh, you claim to be 15 Kgs overweight and say u will land up in the hospital if you catch a falling Mahima?

Come on!!! U r making Mahima look fat!

Mahi: Change the pic!

11:51 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

rajesh - gee thanks for making sound like an elephant! hahaha..aw no im not saying all guys are jerks...thats horrible..i love men..well most of em!

smithy - too right, i agree. u can never fully place yourself in someone else's shoes, they'll never fit. but the prospect of being taken for a ride..its terrifying!

medha - *weary sigh* i think im gonna put a ban on any talk of rajesh and i. hahaha

apoo - wow apoo for once u SEEM to be on my side! and NO I WON'T CHANGE MY PIC! (it's not all THAT bad is it?!)

12:09 AM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

ideasmith - Based on wat u said, i should have known the meaning of a couple of liftimes n thn some!...jokes aside, i totally agree wit u!...wise words my friend!

Medha - Whn i said "recover in hospital togather", i had a different idea in mind!...n whn did i ever say i was a good boy my dear?I would never ever lie like tat!(at least not to that extent!) :)

Apoo - U had to bring up the 15kg didnt u!?...*grumble*, wat i was implying was...sigh...nvm...looks like my attempt at a cheeky joke fell flat on its face(pun fully intended)...

N wats wrong wit the pic? she looks pretty in it!...???

Mahi - Mahi...is it so bad to be talked abt wit me?? *hurt look*.... =)

12:39 AM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Rajesh, lemme guess. Your roots belong somewhere in the southern states of India?

12:45 AM  
Blogger justme did the happy dance and finally said..

I Agree with casablanca too..
(P.S I never seem to dis agree with her... )

@medha
U too got d doubts uh?? welcome to d club..!!

12:59 AM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Apoo - Nope, i'm from the eastern side of singapore, but grew up mostly in the western part of SG... :)...yup, im a local product...bt my dad was born in Hyderabad...err...why??

justme - I knw it!..i knw there was sumtin fishy behind that freaky smile!

1:38 AM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Hmmmm... so your roots are from the southern states of India. And you found the photo cute.

Mahi - Point proved. Change the pic!

2:43 AM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Apoo - That just went right over my head!...am I missing something?...n i didnt say the pic was cute...i said it was pretty!...

3:43 AM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

apoo - :P FINE. (i still hate you for calling me that)

rajesh - haha its ok if u didn't get it...it was a private joke haha

11:42 AM  
Blogger StagedSeven did the happy dance and finally said..

*Cue eerie music* Remember aunty margaret? and her million and one cats, blind and deaf dog that hobbled? oooh and that smell..

3:46 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

seven - oh my tell me about it..i felt so sorry for her..and her 100 year old mum! ahh neptune court wont be the same without her..

4:34 PM  
Blogger justme did the happy dance and finally said..

:-)

6:54 PM  
Blogger Rohan Kumar did the happy dance and finally said..

guess we need to seriously reassess the adage Dogs are a "man's" best friend now. Piece of advice stop talking to disillusioned in love half crazed chinese ladies from now on :), such ppl are looking to take someone down with them once their ship is sinkin

12:55 AM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

rohan -haha yup guess its time to change it to 'dogs are a lady's best friend'!
this is annoying/scary mate..i always get targetted by such weirdo's.
bah!
(thanks for the advice though =) )

8:53 AM  
Blogger surbhi seth did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahi....I don't like what she said! Just coz she had a bad bf..n that most guys are a**holes...doesn't mean there aren't good guys our there.... one just has to grab him as soon as u smell the "right guy" (picture grabbing the last piece of double chocolate cake)! But, how do u tell him apart from the rest of the guys? That question, my dear, I don't know!:S

9:22 AM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Right guy... wrong guy... Mahi... change the pic.... or u get ugly guy!

9:57 AM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Apoo - I wil never call myself handsome by any means....but I dont think im ugly!...I still think she looks pretty in the pic!...n just for the record(actually, its more for justme), there is nuttin between Mahi n I!...

7:52 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

subz - tell me about it. HOW do u know?! i guess theres only one method - the trial and error one.
nahh i dont think all guys are assholes...really i don't..i mean we all have our reasons for doing what we do! where's the love babes?! :P

apoo - jeeez ok ok man hold your horses..i need to carefully think this through. its a big decision :P

rajesh - aww no one was calling anyone ugly! thanks :D...and yea..'jusume' needs to stop watching so many hindi movies :P right justme? hehe

10:47 PM  
Blogger Drops Of Jupiter did the happy dance and finally said..

Come on, they're not all bad..and lets face it, you can't live without love. I think to start with the expectation that love lasts forever is irrational and unfair and outs undue pressure. So gurl, take a chance with your heart. You'll never regret it. And if he cheats, pound him to the ground.

11:39 AM  
Blogger claytonia vices did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahima, being a guy I know that many of them can be a**holes, but there are also some really nice guys out there.

You just have to take it nice and slow and not hurry up when u meet a guy. As u spend more and more time, you will see whether he really cares abt you or not.

So, you just have to spend as much time as possible and see how he behaves in different situations. That itself will reveal to u what he is.

By the way, I feel that woman who talked to u seems to be very bad in knowing what kind of people are good for her and who is harmful. No wonder she feels dogs are better then humans!

8:18 PM  
Blogger Jay did the happy dance and finally said..

If I were you I'd find a new vet.

9:06 PM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

No need for thanks dear, I was just stating the obvious truth!...

With everything being said, we kinda forgot sumthing...How is Kelso feeling now?

9:46 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

jups - i know.i keep telling people the same thing. im ok with taking chances..i just wanna take a chance with someone who's worth it..

clay - welcome! yea i know..spending time etc is given..theres no other way to know someone well, but u know..one can't spend time with every tom, dick and harry..he's gotta be sumthin' soecial!

rajesh - he's a-ok now! doc says he needs to lose 0.5 kg haha so he's on a bit of a diet

6:37 AM  

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