15 August, 2005

Stupid, STUPID Mahi.

I don't know if any of you remember this, but a little while back I got really drunk, puked my guts out er..had a bad reaction to some alcohol and then swore I wouldn't touch the stuff for about 6 months.
Of course, the minute I said that, a tiny voice said "Um..Mahi, isn't that a little too rash?Maybe you need to think this out.."

Soon after, I had a little chat with Faraz, an ex-lagos-schoomate of mine.
I told him of my wish to abstain from alcohol and (like many of you) he said "You won't last 3 weeks."
Ok..that's roughly the same as saying "Chickennnnnnn!"

So in a fit of bravado I proudly said :
"Let's make a bet. I'll stay off alcohol for THREE months."

(Of course we didn't bet on anything tangible as such coz we're both a)broke and b) on different continents and DHL-ing stuff can be such a pain)

After much discussion, he bought up a damn good point.
"How do I know that you've not had a drink. It's not like I can have cameras follow you around."
To which, I said :
"Faraz. I am a woman of my word."

And that was that. The deal was sealed. The bet was ON. My will power never wavered.

That is until I heard a friend of mine was having a party at a club.
*Miserable sigh*
Are you one of those people who needs a little encouragement (in the form of alcohol) to flirt outrageously and shamelessly?
Coz I am.

The worst bit is, I finally convinced myself that I WAS going to have ONE drink. I mean..*pfft* it's just ONE drink, right?

I went to bed, with a nagging feeling. Somehow it just wasn't right.
And I realised why.
This wasn't about a bet I had made with someone. This was about the fact I had told someone that I was a woman of my word. This was about being true to myself (and my word). If I were to ever trust someone..anyone in the future, based on their given word, I had to first start trusting myself and what I believed in.
Empty promises I knew, would serve me no good.

The moral of the story is, kids, ALWAYS listen to those tiny voices in your head.
(And don't make stupid bets online.)
(And give the hangover time to wear off, before you think you're a hater.)



Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Okay, I listened to the tiny voice in my head...It said have coffee.. :)

But seriously, Yes, u need to trust urself befor u can trust anyone else...but u are also woman enuf to admit tat u had made a mistake, and tat is a prereq to actually learning from the mistake...I respect tat, good for u gal!...now challenge urself n go 4mts witout a drink...

And to help u along, I'l go the same witout coffee...deal?

PS: In response to my previous comment on ur previous entry....yes, I do hav sumone in mind...care to meet him for dinner sumtime?...its all in the "getting to knw" process ;)

11:57 PM  
Blogger Surya Swamy did the happy dance and finally said..

you didnt keep your word. Shame on you. you deserve to drown in your own guilt. Now, take a man pill, trott down to the nearest bar and wash away all this guilt with your elixir of choice. Cheers! :)

12:28 AM  
Blogger SoNyA did the happy dance and finally said..

Yes mahi... i think keeping ur word is highly important in life... really it is... :)*does e victory dance*

1:30 AM  
Blogger couchpotato did the happy dance and finally said..

The tiny voice in my head says, well... Gotosleepitstwelve. Guess I'd better go get some sleep. Good night. *yawn*

2:32 AM  
Blogger APOO did the happy dance and finally said..

Lady, u been thinking too much! Go get a drink.

Its worth betting on if it makes sense! Giving up alcohol never made sense to me.

6:21 AM  
Blogger Metria did the happy dance and finally said..

3 months isn't that long. Just a few weekends, after all. I'm sure you'll be able to keep to your word. Think of how proudly you can tell Faraz how you stuck to the deal ;)

7:22 AM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

rajesh - 4 months??!? without a drink??worse still.4 months without COFFEE?! don't u think thats jumping the gun a bit??:S:S

surya - but...but :S i decided NOT to have the drink..doesnt that count for anything?!?!'man pill' hahahaah im pretty sure your family doctor's dealing in some not-so-legal stuff :P

sonya - yes yes darling turns out i AM going to keep you company after all. i hope that place has good mocktails.

couchie - thats the spirit! =D

apoo - :( alas! woe is me! i am bound by my word :( i MUST abstain. this is going to be a looooong 3 months. DAMN YOU FARAZ! you and your sneaky bets.

metria - hi welcome! *serves metria some ..tea?* thank you for your words of encouragement =) to know that i have supporters out there..well..it only fuels me on and gives me the strength to stick to my word..thank you *wipes away a tear*

8:11 AM  
Anonymous tragicomix did the happy dance and finally said..

i got drunk in front of all my bosses and colleagues, puked in a colleagues car, and ended the evening standing buck naked in front of my friends, insisting I was ok. I swore off alcohol for a while, until I realized, it wasn't about absolutes, it was about how much alcohol. (or at least this rationalization works for me)

ps : what a co incidence, i also flirt shamelessly, alcohol or no alcohol.

8:47 AM  
Blogger Webmiztris did the happy dance and finally said..

I need alcohol to dance. dry dancing is just No Fun!!

don't feel bad for giving in to temptation. one drink never hurt anybody. :)

10:11 AM  
Blogger Jay did the happy dance and finally said..

Mahima dear, if you've got voices in your head, I think you've got bigger problems than alcohol. :-p

10:11 AM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

One must find ones limits and go beyond them!...or someting like tat, didnt really pay much attention to tat ep of Kung-Fu...

Having said tat (N aft trying to wrk the graveyard shift witout coffee) i agree its tuff wrk...so, U n me can go 4mths witout drink n coffee but just like wrk, we'll take the wkends off....k?!?!? deal? ;)

10:17 AM  
Blogger iyer education did the happy dance and finally said..

(the tiny voice in my head is asking me not to comment... should i listen to it and abstain from commenting?)

you should keep your word for sure... but as per the laws of cosmic consciousness in this universer, alcohol is exempt from all sorts of promises and vows... so you dont have to worry too much...

12:00 PM  
Blogger FRZ did the happy dance and finally said..

btw I'm Faraz

12:41 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

tragicomix - welcome! wow..buck naked?! i'm sure your colleagues have never looked at you in the same way, after that incident :P lucky u..i NEED the alcohol to push me into doing things. haha

webmiztris - tell me about it! dry dancing is stupid..the only thing i do while dry dancing, is notice how badly other people are dancing.
aahhh but i haven't given in to temptation ;) i was just thinking about giving in =D

jay - oh shutup mr i-dont-let-my-boyfriend-colour-his-own-dragon :P now hush. don't insult my voices..they are getting angry.

rajesh - woah...who said anything about going 4 months without it?! you can go ahead by all means, but i'm perfectly happy with breaking my three month 'fast' with some Bailey's :P

rumpy - alcohol is exempt? hmmm *suspiciously* somehow i'm not quite buying that..ESPECIALLY since it's coming from you

faz - yes that is faraz. thanks alot.

4:14 PM  
Blogger Mandar did the happy dance and finally said..

its ok, mahi.... twas just a drink.... dont worry too much abt the trust thingy either... i mean... c'mon! its no big deal. u r still the nice woman... errr... girl that u were before u had that drink! :)

5:00 PM  
Blogger iyer education did the happy dance and finally said..

you dont believe me?... ask your spiritual self (complete punn intended)... you will get the answer... and it will concur with what i had to say :)

5:00 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

mandar - nono i DIDNT have the drink in the end! haha thanks :P

rumpy - my spiritual self says 'be a woman of your word mahi'
and therefore..i shall.

5:23 PM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

*sniff*...once again, I am all alone in my struggles...no support..no help...*sniff*

7:58 PM  
Blogger The Box did the happy dance and finally said..

I will not say the following:

"I told you so."

"I knew it."

"I'm not surpised."


11:22 PM  
Anonymous Arjun did the happy dance and finally said..

Ye hath not committed a sin. However, you are grievously close to doing so.
The very fact that there is alcohol is stout proof that God wants us to be happy.
Furthermore, always do sober what you said you'd do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut.

A lot of ppl agree with me:

A woman drove me to drink and I didn't even have the decency to thank her. : W.C. Fields

When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. : Henny Youngman

Without question, the greatest invention in the history of mankind is beer. Oh, I grant you that the wheel was also a fine invention, but the wheel does not go nearly as well with pizza. : Dave Barry

The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind. : Humphrey Bogart

Give me a woman who loves beer and I will conquer the world. : Kaiser Wilhelm

You're not drunk if you can lie on the floor without holding on. : Dean Martin

So pick up and chugg away....


4:52 AM  
Anonymous Titli did the happy dance and finally said..

hehehe.. yeah infact i agree with rajesh.. atleast you admitted your mistake; didnt do it on the sly right? besides, it's all about the experience Mahi... you should know.. Operant conditioning (psychology!) I had a really bad experience with alcohol a year ago..took a few shots of some cheap bad bad vodka.. and you know what followed.. I havent touched alcohol eversince...actually, i feel sick even at the thought of Vodka or anything to do with it! eugh!

1:05 PM  
Blogger Spot did the happy dance and finally said..

hi mahi - thanks for the code fix again, but haven't quite finished with the new site yet. -

i've been dying to say this...from Power Rangers or Ultraman...

"A promise is not an oath, it can be broken".

So drink lah. :)

2:12 PM  
Blogger Madame Mahima did the happy dance and finally said..

rajesh - oh relax..it's just coffee :P

box - :@ damn u! but anyway you cant say 'i told you so' coz i haven't drunk the drink yet ;) gimme more credit man!

arjun - awesome quotes! i like you already =D, i agree..alcohol aint that bad and all..but this isnt about the alcohol anymore..this is about me and keeping to my word..and keep to my word i shall!

titli - very very true..it WAS quite an experience (one that won't be repeated thats for sure) and yep..i so know what u mean when u say u have an aversion to alcohol..tts how it was for me too...for the first 3 days :P

spot - nooo! my word is my oath! no can do...i shall weather these 3 months out..i just need everyones support =)

6:07 PM  
Anonymous Rajesh did the happy dance and finally said..

Juas coffee?!...JUST COFFEE?!?!...U didnt say tat, nope u didnt say TAT!!!....1, 2, 3...okay..im fine now...

titli - Thank u :)

N u will have my support..even if u refused to giv me urs....I STILL CANT BELIEV U SAID "JUST COFFEE"....*goes and have a expresso double shot*

11:31 PM  

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